Paul

Gestalttherapist

As a gestalttherapist I provide support to anyone willing and interested to understand how a problem is somehow self made, unconsciously of course. What I mean by this is: lasting problems arise from mishandling the more complex challenges of live, such as a challenging relationship at work, with your partner, child or simply the challenge of being at ease with yourself. Please contact me if you want to find out more.


The art of living

For me the purpose of Gestalttherapy is to learn "the art of living". That is the capacity to deal effectively with the major challenges of life.Think of a difficult relationshipn with your partner, your child, your colleague or boss, and last but not least with yourself. This art of living nobody learns in school. If you were lucky, you learned some of it from your parents. But parents cannot give what they themselves did not have.

If you feel angry of frustrated about any problem in your live, it means there is something more to be learned about the "art of living". Life itself is the main teacher, but also the toughest one because it can hurt a lot. This I know from my personal experience.  

The art of living is not really an art, because it can be learned by practice. The good news is that the problem you experience is your best guide to show you what exactly it is that you need to learn now. The first and crucial step to start learning is to realize that you need to change your focus from whatever it is outside yourself to yourself. Challenges arise outside of you, but problems are self made. You need only find out how you do this unconsciously.This is the support I offer.

Our cooperation

When you are ready we will enter into a temporary but intens relationship. Our contact will be personal and direct.

We start by examining the problem. From there we will investigate what you think about the situation, what painfull memories, associations, believes and convictions you maintain that impact the present situation and create the problem. You will develope a deeper understanding of yourself, what I call self awareness. This is the key to change. You will come to see new options to deal with the challenging situation. If it is old pain that stops you from changing your attitude, I will guide you to face the pain you must have tried to avoid. This is what will free you. If relevant to your situation I will provide you with some reading material or a video to make you understand at a deeper level.

Quick results

First results come quickly. You will soon experience more space in your head and in your heart. You will discover new "truths", new energy and new options. Your problem will disappear and in the process you have learned how to effectively handle complex life challenges. You stop your learning process with me when you feel ready.

Who am I?

I am a retired academic with some 70 years of life experience including "a lot of shit". As a young man I was succesful in learning to analyze problems but later in life I found out that this did not protect me from the frustrations and disillusions of life. Obviously, something else was needed that I did not have. My marriage ended, I lost my ideals and motivation for my work in the fieldm of international development. Burned out I found support in therapy which also showed me the way to major wisdom traditions, such as Buddhisme, Sufism and the Course in Miracles.

I have been in a long distance relationship with my swiss girlfriend for 20 years.

You are welcome to make an appointment. If you were to decide not to work with me I will not charge you.

Paul